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Friday, January 22, 2010

Too skinny...BRING IT ON!

I have recently been getting a few comments from friends and loved ones that say "Dawn, you are looking good, I hope you don't get too skinny." Now, let me say that the people that have actually said this to my face are very supportive of my endeavor and are also encouraging and I realize that they are saying this out of concern only.

I decided this would be a great blog topic to share my thoughts on this comment.

First, "too skinny" is such a personal opinion in my eyes. What one person views as too skinny might possibly be fit and trim to another person. In my eyes their are two people in my life that I personally know (and I know a lot of people) that I view as too skinny and they actually both have eating disorders. The two of them have little to no muscle mass and almost look like skin on bones. That is a personal issue to them and I am sure they fight it themselves or most likely they have NO CLUE that they look that way to others b/c again to them they look fine. So truly the only person that can deem if a person is too skinny is themselves. Since we all know we can't please everyone you have to go with YOU and how you view yourself and that is the bottom line. Plus, the people that I might view as trim and fit with a small body fat percentage and a good deal of lean muscle mass might be the people that you think are too skinny and I think have the perfect body. Again, a personal opinion here.

Secondly, I have worked too hard to get to where I am now and I finally have this healthy lifestyle down that I can assure you that I will NOT get what I view as too skinny and an un healthy body weight. I WILL NOT DO IT!! My health is too important to me and I have made too many strides to overcome some eating issues to throw my health out the door and become what I deem is too skinny and un healthy.

Thirdly, I think (again this is my own opinion) that it is hard for people that have known me for my lifetime or for several years to see me smaller/thinner. They have seen me either overweight for too many years of my life or they have seen me at an average weight for several years that looks decent on me and they think anything smaller is just too skinny when in fact that is just their image they have of how they think I should look in their head.

Finally, For once in my life (my adult life at least) I don't give a crap if people view me as too skinny. In fact, I think I deserve it. I lived 12 years of my life from age 18 - 30 what I consider really overweight for my height (over 185 pounds and up into the low 200's for about 5 years of that) and I want the satisfaction of being too skinny in some people's eyes. I am finally (have been for the last 4 years) making a lifestyle change so that I feel better and hopefully live longer and look better to boot and dang it if you think I am getting too skinny in this venture to the competition stage and you feel the need to tell me about it then you can expect a BIG SMILE AND A "THANK YOU, I WORK VERY HARD" response from me.

I forgot to add that during this process I will most likely get down to a weight of around 115 (this number is not set in stone and my trainer does not go by scale weight but by the look I have and everyone's body is different based on the amount of muscle that they have) but 115 is a snapshot in time. I will not stay at that weight for long. After the competition I will do my best to settle in at a weight that I feel the most comfortable at possibly around 130 or so just to throw out a number. 115 is for the competition and a specfic goal and not a liveable maintenance weight for me.

BRING ON SKINNY!!!!

9 comments:

Lisa "One Mom's Weight Loss" said...

Good for you. I got down to 132 lbs and looked great a year and a half ago. I had people do the same thing!! Ignore them. You look totally awesome!!

Therese said...

I totally get where you are coming from! I get that from people too..."Just have a piece of cake Therese you're too skinny anyway." Usually it's from people who are overweight and probably unhappy with their own bodies!

You do what makes you happy! You are working hard, eating healthy, and feeling great. You deserve to feel fabulous.

Jessica said...

OH! The no-so-supportive comments begin!!! Becca gave me a great lesson in this before I started my training. She told me it would happen, she told me people would make their comments, and they did. Soooo many people will make the "too skinny" comment to you. Just grin inside and let them say, and keep reminding yourself that you know what you are doing!!! I've been told numerous times from relatives that my face was too skinny or "I just don't like your face." WTF ARE YOU KIDDING ME!! Remember, most people in the world do not want you to succeed, even if you think they do! There are very few of us that truly want everyone to feel this kind of success! So proud of you for not letting it get you down!!!

The Graves Gang said...

As I have said before you are such an inspiration to soooooo many ... because of you I know that I TOO CAN loose weight... I am living & longing for the day when someone tells me "I am to skinny" You go girl... You know what is best for you & your body & as long as you listen "to yourself" you have no worries...

Teresa said...

I love your attitude. I am really looking forward to seeing you at your stage weight. Who cares what others think.

The Lewis's said...

You are doing so awesome Dawn! Anybody that tells you that is most likely just really jealous of you and your accomplishments bc they have not made those good decisions in their own lives!

i am Susan said...

Don't listen to them. You have your goals and you are going to reach them. My parents did the exact same thing when I was dieting down for competition. I totally agree that people just get used to seeing you a certain way and when you are not that way any longer then all of a sudden you must have a problem. BTW my trainer set 115 lbs for my bb goal weight. I never got to that weight, but did get down to 122 lbs and size 0...unfortunately some of the weight does come back on after, but hey that's okay. It's all about feeling good about yourself and your accomplishments. I am already proud of you for what you have accomplished.

Shannon said...

Good post girl! I have been told a few times that I'm getting too skinny and I just wanted to say - "Um, no I'm not too skinny, I'm at a very good weight and have worked my butt off to get here. Plus, I have muscle mass - I'm not skin and bones - you're just mad that I'm here and you're not. " LOL

Becca said...

ABSOLUTELY Loved this post. YOu have brought up a topic that many people choose not to. I love your outlook on life. I feel the exact same way. YOu are not trying to look anorexic, and with the way you're eating and your muscle, you never will! I am going to tweet this link now so others can read!! GO GET IT DAWN!!