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Tuesday, September 15, 2009

A MUST read - "Judgements"

My trainer, Corinne at Phit-N-Phat wrote this blog yesterday and it really struck a cord with me and it is now moved up to one of my all time favorite blogs that she has done. I wanted to share it with you and get your thoughts. I cannot get over how TRUE this is. It is long but I encourage you to take the time to read it when you can.


"It always amazes me to think that every house on every street is full of so many stories; so many triumphs and tragedies, and all we see are yards and driveways.”

My heart is aching today for a few people in this world today and they don't know who they are or that someone is thinking of them.

I ache for people who look at others and make assumptions about their health. I ache for people who think they "know" what someone else goes through to be what the outward appearance presents. And, when these same people lose out on a valuable lesson because of their own judgmental thoughts.

Never, EVER look at someone and think you "know" what they go through to be in the shape they are today.

Last week, I got extensions and changed my hair. I have recently went through lots of plastic surgery to fix loose skin and look like someone who may have always had it "together" with eating and exercising.

At the same time, I had SEVERAL people tell me that I have no idea what it feels like to be FAT. Literally, I have business cards with a before/after picture because some people get so caught up with how I look now that they can't believe I lost 110lbs and was ALWAYS overweight. Seriously, 20 years of being overweight and 5 years of being fit.

It doesn't bother me personally. I like looking like I have always taken care of myself! What DOES BOTHER ME is that all my knowledge and advice is poop until they figured out I had lost weight.

My personal experience IS IMPORTANT, but I don't always have time to go into all that makes Corinne. Are you going to be the girl who listens with a deaf ear to someone like me because of WHAT YOU THINK YOU KNOW? You never know when an opportunity presents itself, people. Always be listening and thinking how you can better yourself.

Have you thought this or felt this way?
I see a woman obviously 60 or so lbs overweight walking slowly on a trail with another girl. She better pick up the pace if she's going to lose some weight.
Yes, that could be me and Mammy yesterday. We walk slow because we are training for a half-marathon and will be there for three or more hours. You wouldn't know that by watching us, though.

I see a girl who needs to "tone up a little" just putting in time on the stationary bike.
That could be a friend of mine who recently had a knee injury and is doing the only thing she can until the doctor clears her. Did you realize keeping a healthy habit is what she's doing?

I notice that girl eating fries, burgers, and a dessert. Must be nice to eat like that all the time.
Maybe you didn't see all the healthy food she ate all week to EARN a burger and dessert.

That girl is crazy if she thinks three slices of thin crust pizza will help her lose weight.
Oh...you didn't know last week she was eating a whole medium by herself and this week she's trying to make better choices.

You will never help yourself if you are judging what others do. What you can do is look at what YOU are doing and make it the BEST it can be.

Like I tell Logan, my son, you have control over YOU. When you are busy watching what others do - you are focusing on something you have NO CONTROL over.

I find people who always notice what others do can't tell you much about their own behaviors. Often it's a defense tactic because they don't want to look at what they are doing until it's out of control. I've done it myself many times and catch myself getting caught up in it even now. What I also know about me is that often I need to pay more attention to my own decisions, clean up my act, and then suddenly I don't notice what others are doing so much.

The last part of this is simple. Today, be the best you can be. Hope that others see your actions and make a judgement that whatever you are doing is making you radiate happiness. Regardless of your shape or your size - you are so positive and focused on being a better person they want to be just like you.Today I am going to be that person: smile on my face, outstanding attitude, and kindness in my actions. You never know when someone will silently judge you to be an inspiration.